Very recently, a popular YouTuber by the name of Shan-BOODY had a segment of hers featured on the show “The Real”, in which they spoke about how she helps women out on dates and even hold up cue-cards for assistance. This point was met by joking criticism of it “being some white people stuff” from Loni Love.
What followed was an uproar from social media, particularly black women social media coming to the defense of Shan, which in itself, isn’t the problem. The problem is, as some have pointed out, the defenders who included dark and brown-skinned black women used colorist, or colorist-adjacent language to degrade Loni.
I also have a problem with the fake outrage surrounding the situation. Shan has every right to criticize Loni and feel slighted by the comment. As is the case with many multi-racial women who identify, or are identified as black when said black-ness comes into question by an actual black person, there are bound to be tears and ill-feelings as they many times feel that they don’t fit in anywhere.
However, it’s interesting that the black community has so many stringent boundaries on what being black is when you look phenotypically black but when a woman is NOT phenotypically black all the sudden anything goes. Let me explain.
If you are a phenotypic black woman: brown to dark skin, rounder features, kinky-hair there are certain things and behaviors that the community expects you to adhere to otherwise you’re an “Oreo”. For example if a black woman talks with a valley girl accent, likes country music, or anything of the like, she will be accused of trying to be white, or won’t be considered “Really black”...whatever that means.
However, the most non-black looking, multi-racial woman who in all honesty don’t do anything that the community considers “black” is all the sudden part of the race when someone, anyone even looks like they are questioning their perceived black-ness. On the flip side, you will rarely if ever hear other races of people accepting individuals who demonstrate the behaviors of said community but aren’t actually a part of it as their own. Yet black people will accept ANYBODY as black just because they may be able to do a little two-step on beat.
Also Black women and girls are always thrown right under the bus anytime it comes to criticizing or joking about a bi-racial or multi-racial woman no matter the context. Often accusations of jealousy, bitterness, or straight up hate are thrown at the brown, or dark-skinned woman. However phenotypic black men have all the jokes in the world for bi-racial men yet are not faced with the same back-lash even though those accusations may be just as true for them.
Honestly, this situation is just more of the same. The optics are never going to be in Loni’s favor, nor any other black woman who is in her position but I’m just endlessly shocked at how black women, particularly dark-skinned women will always fly to the defense of the mixed girl but never to the defense of their like-ness.
Liv is a new blogger for DDS Magazine. She graduated University in 2018, with a degree in History & English Lit and in her free time is an avid creative writer, History & Fashion enthusiast, as well as a cat-mom to three kittens. When she is not creating, she works at a children's non-profit and enjoys spending her weekends doing Pilates, hiking, shopping and indulging in Sci-fi novels.