Christmas is nearly here and along with the festive celebrations comestime for reflection. You may ponder over the incredible things that have happened this year, the things you’d like to do in the New Year, and whether or not you like the direction your life is going towards.Whether you feel your life is perfect (perhaps with a few hiccups here and there) or you see a large margin between where you want to be and where you are now, here are some tips to implement that will help you make 2019 your best year yet.
1. Make A Small (or Big) Alteration to Your Life
If you’ve always wanted to live in Bali or take surfing lessons in Portugal, make 2019 the year you start planning and putting everything into place to make your dream come true. Does your circle of friends leave anything to be desired? Start seeking out more friendships and be intentional about strengthening the friendships you already have. Friends can boost your mental health, your physical health, and even your network of impact.
As a result, it’s not an exaggeration to say that a wider, deeper circle of friends could be the difference between moving up in your careeror remaining in a low-paying field. Set some goals for learning a new skill—even if it’s as simple as learning how to do your nails at home, how to cornrow. Don’t be afraid to set goals as big as learning a new language, or overcoming your depression, or finding love. It’s best not to wait for opportunities to come, but instead, muster up the courage to mold and manufacture your own success.
2. Get Some Cognitive Behavior Therapy
It’s my personal opinion that every black woman could benefit from some therapy. Mental illness is rampant in the black community, although it often goes undiagnosed and untreated. According to a 2010 study by the CDC, African-Americans have the “highest rate of current depression” with 12.8% experiencing depression, followed by Hispanics (11.4%) and then whites (7.9%).
Even if you don’t have a mental illness, investing in cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavioral therapy will help you better cope with the struggles of everyday life, as well as give you the tools to navigate the world to your advantage as a black woman. It may be the one thing you need to do to elevate your life to another level. At the very least, if you can’t afford therapy or you don’t have the time, try to get your hands on some CBT or DBT workbooks available at any bookstore near you and get to work on reframing your negative thoughts and building your self-confidence.
3. Give Back To Other Black Women
Figure out what you can do to help another black woman in need, whether by offering support mentorship, financial support, or simply friendship.Remember that whatever you do to or for another black woman is something you are doing for the overall sisterhood, but most importantly, yourself. We all know about the systems of oppression that work against us on a daily basis and the way in which we’re often forced to take up leadership roles aloneand withstand an immense amount of pressure. Yet, there’s also lots of fantastic things going on for black women.
Since 1997, the number of businesses owned by black women grew a substantial 322%, placing us as the fastest growing group of entrepreneurs in the United States. This means there’s plenty of opportunities for us to offer guidance, support, mentorship and sisterhood. What if 2019 was the year black women come together and elevate and support each other wholeheartedly? Imagine what we could accomplish if we were all able to unite?
"Grace is a freelance writer and blogger from Canada. Her work has been featured on HerCampus, 21Ninety, Read Unwritten. She is a voracious reader, a dog-lover and a self-professed pop culture junkie. Her other hobbies include watching sappy romantic comedies, consuming too many strawberry-filled doughnuts and people-watching. Grace currently attends university, where she is working towards a Bachelor of Arts degree in English and Pre-Law."