December 13, 2019

For many of us the scariest thing about breaking up is this fear that you won’t ever find better than what you’ve had before. We convince ourselves that our ex was as good as it gets and either try to rekindle things with them or quickly leap into another relationship with both eyes closed.

Being single feels like a punishment worthy enough to have its own level in Dante’s Inferno and we are willing to do almost anything to no...

November 26, 2019

Dark-Skinned women, you have options; not just romantically but you have options in your friendships, the people you associate yourself with, and the activities that you choose to do. Many times, i’ll see black women like me who have opened themselves up to interracial and intercultural dating, but have not extended the same to their friendships. I used to be one of those women who had partners of different races, yet only had...

November 14, 2019

When you’re a girl, the grooming of you begins quite early so as to ensure that you’re attractive enough to catch the fancy of some imaginary man in the future. While these efforts are often well intentioned, they at times lead to unsavory outcomes. This is especially true for black girls, where majority come from a community overburdened with broken homes. Generational sabotage is prevalent in black households and dark-skinne...

November 8, 2019

I am ecstatic that in 2019 more black women are waking up and leveling up both in mentality and in appearance. Although I existed most of my life as a “girly girl”, my journey has really been about taking my mentality to the next level and sharpening up some areas where I lack and learning that being a feminine dark-skinned woman is okay.

It is so refreshing to see my fellow dark skinned sisters embracing their natural feminin...

November 7, 2019

“Is there, perhaps, one soul among all others--among all who have lived, the endless generations, from world's end to world's end--who must love us or die? And whom we must love, in turn--whom we must seek all our lives long--headlong and homesick--until the end?” 
― Robert Nathan, Portrait of Jennie 

There’s not an idea more written, more sung, more embraced, than the idea of romantic love. It is for many of us an id...

November 4, 2019

Here are a few statistics: 

  • 83% of black men who earn at least $100,000 marry black women. 

  • 85% of black male college graduates marry black women 

  • 88% of black men in general marry black women

    These are all statistics that the hoteps, broteps, and militant betty’s alike love to tote in the face of black women, especially dark skinned black women who dare complain about the less than ideal marriage prospects f...

October 30, 2019

We’ve all been there before. In a relationship with a man who’s taking more than he’s worth. Perhaps he invoked the gift of gab and charmed his way into your heart. Perhaps your hot girl summer got a little out of control and now that it’s over you don’t know what to do with the “toys” you’ve acquired.

Maybe he approached you when your self-esteem was low, but now that you’re back in your power his presence has you questioning...

October 18, 2019

There’s an agenda against the black woman’s happiness and success. This is especially true with regards to her happiness and success in love. With cuffing season just a DM away, the love-scorned have begun their black hearts parade. If it isn’t enough to have love-scorned black men slandering us, the voices of women who have appointed themselves as leaders in thought have begun to do the same. In women’s groups of all agendas...

October 10, 2019

If you live for the season where everything dies, then October may be one of your favorite months. For many Americans, Halloween marks the day where festivities begin and end. For others, the entire month is worthy of celebration. It’s the only time of year where their fascination with the dark and macabre is the most socially acceptable. Despite the themes of death and darkness that define October, the month has a very family...

October 2, 2019

To describe the current dating land scape as confusing would be a description generous in civility. We are in the age of questioning everything from whether pineapple should go on pizza to whether our partner was born in the gender they are presenting. This transitional phase our society is going through is certainly a mark of progression. However, social change often leaves in its path befuddled individuals straddling between...

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