November 8, 2019

I am ecstatic that in 2019 more black women are waking up and leveling up both in mentality and in appearance. Although I existed most of my life as a “girly girl”, my journey has really been about taking my mentality to the next level and sharpening up some areas where I lack and learning that being a feminine dark-skinned woman is okay.

It is so refreshing to see my fellow dark skinned sisters embracing their natural feminin...

November 4, 2019

Here are a few statistics: 

  • 83% of black men who earn at least $100,000 marry black women. 

  • 85% of black male college graduates marry black women 

  • 88% of black men in general marry black women

    These are all statistics that the hoteps, broteps, and militant betty’s alike love to tote in the face of black women, especially dark skinned black women who dare complain about the less than ideal marriage prospects f...

October 28, 2019

​1. Don’t join in when the other kids are taunting dark-skinned children

This is something that you will regret when you’re old enough to realize how much colorism takes a toll on the psyche of black people, especially the children. At the time you will view it as innocuous taunting, staple of the childhood experience since children are cruel about everything.

However, as you mature, you will see the product of that taunting in...

October 11, 2019

Months ago, I went to get my hair pressed at one of the few natural hair salons in my area. The salon is run by a dark-brown skinned mom of two daughters, who often are with her when she works. The youngest daughter was very clearly biracial; she pranced around in her little cute dress, hair combed, and couldn’t have been older than thirteen. Her oldest daughter looked almost exactly like herself except a little darker and a l...

September 27, 2019

In the early 2000s, weekday evenings after school consisted of a ritual young black girls know all too well. Sitting either in a salon chair, or in your mother’s living room anticipating the heat of a hot comb and the tugging of edges. UPN, now the CW was another part of that ritual.

At the time, Girlfriends was my favorite on the line-up. I’d perk up with enthusiasm, risking a slap from the comb, every time I heard the theme...

September 24, 2019

It is no secret that there is a power in our presence and when  used positively, we are capable of making an impact in major social, political, professional, and familial changes. Therefore, our presence and influence in the lives of young dark skinned women and girls has similar potential to spark greater outcomes of high esteem for them. In addition to platforms such a DDS, media moguls, entertainers, socialites, and public...

August 1, 2019

It was never acute—the self-loathing. While I can’t say I ever felt like a million bucks, I also wasn’t walking around looking for the nearest bridge to jump off of (like some of my angsty, white, adolescent counterparts). While my Caucasian friends were complaining of freckles, acne and what they deemed as overly shapely figures, I had somehow remained untouched by the all-too common experience of adolescent self-hatred. Alth...

July 16, 2019

We know that black men tend to stick together, even to the point of justifying another black man’s illegal actions, for the sake of protecting someone else with whom he has an unspoken bond of brotherhood with, regardless of what genetics may say.

Do dark-skinned black women have the same? Some might say yes; we can certainly point to examples of it in television and movies as well as in musical alliances, and groups like the o...

June 25, 2019

(Halloween 2018. My daughter regularly practices yoga with me)

Something interesting came up in the live stream Chrissie shared with Christelyn Karazin this past Friday – a hang-up that I do not think I wanted to be fully aware of before I heard their sentiments. Both women openly discussed the ability of dark-skinned mothers to mixed-race children to support DDS Magazine without negative effect. I encountered this after author...

This account with colorism highlights an experience with a colorist in a former workplace.  I share this story to depict the various ways colorism can appear depending on the environment. I am not stating that because of this experience every light skin black woman or woman mixed with black is a colorist.

The majority of my encounters have been the complete opposite, nor do I look to go around labeling every wom...

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